“Beauty privilege is very real. None of us are imagining it, and if we aren’t born genetic lottery winners, our only option is to compensate with style, grace, and charm. Of course, none of that shit comes cheap. That’s kind of the whole point. It’s all meant to be aspirational and exclusionary. We’re supposed to feel depressed by our skin, agitated by our bodies, and anxious about our invisibility. That’s the insidious subtlety of social control. The worst part is that we know in our rational minds that it’s all bullshit, and yet we’re still plagued with self-loathing when we can’t live up to unattainable beauty standards. No matter how much self-acceptance we achieve, we can still look in the mirror and instantly catalog all the things about ourselves that we don’t think measure up. It’s maddening. It makes us feel like hypocrites even though it’s not our hypocrisy.”—The Coquette @Adult-Mag
(I love this. There’s nothing that makes me happier as a writer than finding my work quoted and reblogged all over tumblr.)
“Leslie Knope got her dream job, had kids, and is basically running the world on JJ’s waffles and friendship. What more do you want, Academy? I suppose if Pawnee had an emotionally unavailable nerd in a Flash t-shirt, it could finally get the respect it deserves.”—
the reason male comic book fans work themselves into a frenzied rage over “fake geek girls" is because they think they can’t get a girlfriend because of their love for comic books (a.k.a nerdiness). if they accept that geek girls genuinely love comic books, then they’re left with the cold harsh reality that it’s not their nerdiness that makes them unattractive to women, but the fact that they are misogynistic condescending dickbags who need to be avoided AT ALL COSTS
What I get specifically are comments that have to do with being a woman - grotesque things about my looks, whether good or bad, what people would do with me (and I’m not talking about take me on a date,) saying terrible things about how women aren’t funny and just horrible things.
Usually people will say ‘well, those are just trolls in their mother’s basement’, but if you click on their profile it’s like ‘proud father of 2’,…so it’s just…I don’t belive in trolls as the only people that say terrible things. I think that the internet is real life, and…that’s a terrible person who is awful all day and then they went on the internet at night to continue the terribleosity.
So I will continue to throw down.
Just ignore them is a good philosophy for white men, but for women we still need to be loud, I think.
“Even as a 16-year-old girl, wearing no makeup, I still got really crude comments from people in the crowd. I don’t know what the deal is with a female being onstage, but for whatever reason, the last thing people want to recognize is a skill. I don’t know why that is.”—
Hayley Williams comments on the challenges of being paid attention to as a woman rather than a singer. (AP Magazine)